Intimacy is the key to a happy marriage. Marriage that has survived through thick and thin. But busy schedules, stress, and unexpressed frustrations have led to it fading away. The distance between the emotional or physical closeness of partners may begin to increase so much that the couple start feeling more like roommates than romantic life partners.
Valuable Decorations for Your Marriage is a book wherein Dr. Francis Ngulefac empowers husbands and wives to be intentional about taking steps to reconnect and rekindle their bond. He uses biblical principles, practical insight, and heartening encouragement to show that intimacy not only can be restored but also be enhanced over years. Are you ready to spark some connection with your spouse? Here is how.
Why Intimacy Declines
The hustle and bustle of raising kids and going to work and other daily routines have a way of pushing aside meaningful connect that nurtures the soul of a marriage. Over time, couples start drifting apart, not necessarily due to lack of love, but simply because life’s demands keep hitting on their fun.
Dr. Francis Ngulefac reminds us that intimacy, both emotional and physical, is like a garden that needs insight every day to be watered and nurtured for it to flourish. If not intentionally tended, it is very easy for weeds of distance and disconnect to take over.
The Song of Solomon also gives us a brief glimpse into God’s blueprint for intimacy, it goes something like “His left hand is under my head, and his right arm embraces me.” It is that intimate; it is holy. It binds like nothing else.
Emotional Intimacy First
Emotional closeness helps in making the physical relationship better as well. If the significant other feels seen, heard, and understood by their partner and there are more feelings involved rather than just words. The way to physical intimacy becomes easier and more fulfilling. In Valuable Decorations for Your Marriage, Dr. Francis Ngulefac encourages couples to practice “heart checks” daily. This simple, yet powerful ritual fosters deeper emotional bonding.
Ask your partner: “How’s your heart today?” then listen, truly listen, without interruption and judgment. Such a simple question creates vulnerability, builds trust, and paves the way for the conversation to flow freely.
One of the couple in Dr. Ngulefac’s coaching began to share just one feeling with each other every evening before sleep. This practice built their emotional trust over time and began to erode the walls formed by years of miscommunication. After the emotional connection deepened and matured, physical intimacy stepped forward. It came honestly, lovingly, and meaningfully. Emotional bonding takes consistency and compassion; it does not just happen in a blink of an eye. It gets nurtured every day, and when nurtured, the bond leads naturally to greater physical closeness and marital joy.
Three Habits for Intimacy
According to Valuable Decorations for Your Marriage, consider trying the following:
- Touch: try to hold hands or hug for at least 10 seconds every day for the release of oxytocin, which promotes a sense of warmth.
- Talk: share one gratitude every night like “I appreciated all your help today.”
- Prayer: you should pray for your spouse’s needs as advised in 1 Corinthians 7:3-5. Promoting mutual care.
Such little acts build a relationship of reciprocity, affection and trust.
Keep the Flame Alive
It isn’t required every day that you do big romantic gestures. But frequent very small gestures of love that promote intimacy are more than enough to rebuild that broken connection. What is wonderful about this weekly practice of a date-night is that it is not the glamour of such things. But the time set down from the everyday calendar as time to connect.
It might be something as simple as sitting together over coffee, taking a walk around the neighborhood, or sharing a little friendly competition with that favorite board game. It is the depth of thought and intent behind these gestures and their regular occurrence that holds the true magic.
Dr. Francis Ngulefac, has many powerful tools to help couples nurture and deepen their intimacy. In Valuable Decorations for Your Marriage he writes, “We Are Better Together-Because We Become Richer, Safer, Warmer, and Stronger.” When connection is a priority for both partners, the emotional and physical bond strengthens on its own. Call to action: Are you ready to reopen the door to intimacy in your marriage? Find practical, faith-and-action-based ideas in Valuable Decorations for Your Marriage. Grab your copy today and take the first step toward becoming more connected, passionate, and full of joy!