Each marriage has its own why—a distinctive purpose that gives it meaning, direction, and the ability to endure. In his book, Valuable Decorations for Your Marriage, Dr. Francis Ngulefac provides couples with a broad exposure to the rediscovery of the foundation of their marriage and realigning toward it.
He guides the readers in building fulfilling relationships through wisdom, practical insights, and heartfelt guidance. Whether newlyweds or veterans of the marriage institution, this book invites you to flow beyond insignificances to pursuits for the ultimate purpose of your union. If your marriage is on autopilot, going through predictable motions of a wedding, stop! It is time to reconnect, recommit, and rediscover the real meaning of your relationship again.
Inspired by Dr. Ngulefac’s kind, empowering approach, you will be in for a magnificent journey of transforming your marriage from normalcy to pleasure—one meaningful step at a time. This book is your guide to creating a relationship that is structured and considerate of fulfillment.
The Power of Knowing Your Why
Even the happiest relationships can gradually be withered by a dry spell when there is no agreement or common purpose. In Valuable Decorations for Your Marriage, Dr. Francis Ngulefac offers a touching and moving story about Mark and Sarah who had inched apart emotionally over years of working on careers while watching their children walk away. Their marriage felt fallen behind until they decided to find their “why.”
They discovered that their shared “why” was to equip young couples in the early years of marriage who might be going through the same “dry spell” in their relationship. With this newfound zest for their discussions in the projects they enrolled themselves into, the joy was rekindled and they were hooked. A new mission through which their love deepened was established.
In Ecclesiastes 4:12, it is stated, “A cord of three strands is not quickly broken.” God added as a third strand in your relationship strengthens it, makes them one, and gives them clarity of purpose. Your marriage together with Him assumes an eternal weight and strength.
Signs You’ve Lost Your Why
Do you find that ever so often you just argue about the pointless little things? I mean, maybe you are barely living together as a couple. You are going through life under the same roof, but you haven’t really connected much. These things might be small, but at times, they leave a huge gap in your marriage.
In Valuable Decorations for Your Marriage, Dr. Francis Ngulefac gives numerous practical tools to a couple for reconnection and redirection in their marriage.
His Day 1 exercise is short but deep: “What is one thing we want our marriage to stand for?” With this one question, the key to much-meaningful communication and lasting clarity is opened to a relationship. Be it faith, community, personal development, or an environment of a loving family that grounds your answer, naming that joint purpose builds a strong foundation for coordination and direction.
This instance brings into a marriage much easier conflict resolution with smaller issues and gives most meaning to everyday life. Transforming coexistence into capable company and loving intention, is indeed a shared vision.
Craft Your Marriage Purpose Statement
Try this tonight: sit with your spouse and write a one-sentence purpose statement. For example, “Our marriage exists to spread God’s love through hospitality.” Use these prompts:
- What legacy do we want to leave?
- How can we serve others together?
- What makes us feel most alive as a couple?
This simple act, drawn from Valuable Decorations for Your Marriage, can reignite passion and direction.
Keep Your Purpose Alive
It’s not a one-time task; the act of stating purpose is an everyday undertaking. Hence, review it every month, pray about it, carry out little steps like inviting someone else for a Bible study or working on a collaborative project. Dr. Ngulefac’s book offers tools to sustain this vision, ensuring your marriage thrives. “We Are Better Together—Because We Become Richer, Safer, Warmer, And Stronger.”
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